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HELPFUL COACHING HINTS
How to Prevent and Resolve Conflict

Do your BEST to resolve conflict peacefully and to reconcile differences in a cooperative talk-it-out manner rather than the typical defensive adversarial manner. This process is based on time tested biblical principles.

THE END GOAL is:
TO FIND and AGREE TO good SOLUTIONS that bring forth:

  • Balanced Justice

  • Fairness to Everyone

  • Closure to the Conflict

  • Reconciliation

(These are Testing Guidelines)

Confess Errors using the following "A’s"

  • Address everyone involved

  • Apologize for Specific Attitudes & Actions

  • Avoid Blaming (using words like: if, but, & maybe)

  • Accept the Consequences

  • Ask for Forgiveness

  • Allow Time

  • Accept and Promise to Forgive

  • Alter your Behavior

The 4 Promises of Forgiveness

  • I will not think about this.

  • I will not talk to other people about this.

  • I will not bring this matter up again.

  • I will not let this stand between our relationship.

The above material is from Ken Sande's book The "Peacemaker"
A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict (baker Books, 2ne ed. 1997)

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Peacemaker Ministries
1537 Ave D, Ste #352
Billings, MT 59102-3048
Phone (406) 256-1583

 

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